What you can’t see..

One of the misconceptions I tend to see regarding people and how they view people with mental/emotional/psychological issues, either temporary ones or permanent ones, is that they believe that it is something that is always noticeable, obvious, despite all the contradictions to that idea that have been around for as long as I can remember in my short life.

While some people might embody what has become a stereotype of emotional illness, many do not.  Many are very good at going through the motions in daily life.

Some think that if it’s not obvious, then it’s “not that serious”.

It’s not always completely ignoring life, loved ones, responsibilities.  The struggle to keep up with those things becomes incredibly hard, and sometimes they might pick their battles with just what they can handle, how much, and when.

It’s not always not smiling, or laughing, or leaving the house.

It’s not always a complete lack of ability to enjoy something.

Going through the motions is common for so, so many reasons.

Some day are indeed better than others.

Just because it’s not every single day, or every single moment of every single day, does it mean that it’s not serious or something easily surpassed.

It doesn’t mean someone has given up.  What you might not see is just how hard they are trying, and feeling nothing but failure, because it’s out of their immediate control.

Just because you don’t see them suffering, doesn’t mean that they aren’t.


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Wife, student, new first time mother. Crafter and creator. Animal enthusiast. I had a miscarriage in March 2011. But we tried again. March, 2012 was the birth of my first child. Off and on I have been dabbling with small business, trying to get it off the ground since, every so often changing direction.

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