So, things are slowly getting back to a more “normal” state around here as far as her crazy tantrums have been lately. My oddly very good at listening little girl is returning to herself. For as long as she’s been able to so far in her extremely short life, she’s been pretty darned good at listening to us.
And perhaps we became a bit too lax with her over certain things, add to that her growing want for independence and control over her own life, being a three year old.. We’ve definitely hit the stage most people seem to think is attached to the age 2. Myself and friends and even friends whose kids are quite grown have lamented with me on the 3’s being a heck of a lot worse with some kids.
On one hand I know it’s just a part of her growth, her learning, her little world expanding, but on the other hand I often wish for the little amazing child who could actively listen, understand and chose to do things the way we wanted her to. I’ve always been absolutely amazed at just how thoughtful of a kid she’s been to this point. She still is, but of course, there will always be times when she wants things her way, and we’ve had to remove some of the previous choices we used to give her in order to deal with her incredible meltdowns.
They seem to be falling off a bit now, I can’t even put a number on how long she’s been throwing them at this point. Her phases of different things have always run their course and I’m finally feeling like I’m coming to terms with just waiting for the other side of it, rather than being too overwhelmed while in the midst of it.
Her tantrums are coming a bit swifter, but are far shorter now. There are moments when she’s listening to not just me or my husband, but also to herself, whether it be regarding her level of tiredness before a nap or bedtime, but also with her potty training. We’re slowly able to work back in a choice-making option when it comes to certain things, giving her the ability to “control” a bit of her life while trying to instill the idea that most things are choices, she can’t have everything, and to encourage her to chose what it is she really wants.
Also to remind her that she can have the things she wants/do the things she wants to if she complies with things she has to do, like naps, getting out of her nighttime diaper and into daytime panties, giving up her binkie when she’s not napping or going to bed at night.
We’re still having some issues with things she’s starting to cling to, but that is always going to be a work in progress. At least things are calming down again (and hopefully won’t pick up again now that James is heading back into shift work for the next couple weeks), and I am hopeful that I will be able to keep her on a positive track.